Divorce Mediation in South Africa: Court Forms & Process

Written by Byron Werbeloff | Sep 2, 2026, 7:02:35 AM

Divorce Mediation in South Africa

Understanding the Forms, Court Process and What Happens Next

Divorce can feel overwhelming enough without being handed a collection of legal forms and documents that seem to be written in another language. Summons. Particulars of Claim. Parenting Plan. Settlement Agreement. Family Advocate. Notice of Set Down. Draft Order. Section 28 application.

What do all of these documents actually mean? And, more importantly, where does divorce mediation fit into the process?

This article explains the main court-facing documents and how they fit into a South African divorce mediation process. It is intended as general information, not as a substitute for legal advice.

1. What Actually Starts a Divorce?

A divorce in South Africa is a court process. It is not legally final simply because two spouses agree that they want to separate.

The process generally begins when a divorce summons is issued by the appropriate court. Divorces can be instituted in the High Court or, where jurisdiction permits, the Regional Court.

For a Regional Court divorce, a prescribed document is Form 2C (J941) – Combined Summons (Divorce Matters).

Think of the summons as the document that says: “This divorce action has now officially been started, and these are the claims being brought before the court.”

  • The dissolution of the marriage;
  • The matrimonial property consequences;
  • Maintenance where applicable;
  • Arrangements concerning children; and
  • Other relief being requested from the court.

Mediation does not itself dissolve a marriage. Mediation can help the spouses reach agreement, but the legal divorce still has to proceed through the court.

2. What Are the Particulars of Claim?

The Particulars of Claim provide more detail about what the plaintiff is asking the court to do. They provide the factual and legal basis for the claims.

  • The marriage;
  • The matrimonial property regime;
  • The breakdown of the marriage;
  • Children;
  • Care and contact arrangements;
  • Maintenance;
  • Division of assets; and
  • Other relief sought.

If mediation begins after divorce proceedings have already started, this is one of the documents the mediator should understand because it shows what has already been placed before the court.

3. What Happens After the Summons?

The summons is served on the other spouse.

The defendant may file a Notice of Intention to Defend. This tells the court that the defendant does not simply accept the claims.

The defendant may then deliver a Plea, responding to the allegations and claims made by the plaintiff.

The defendant may also bring a Counterclaim, setting out relief that they themselves want the court to grant.

If the matter is defended, further procedural steps can include discovery, pre-trial procedures and, if necessary, trial.

4. Where Does Mediation Come In?

Mediation can take place before or after litigation has started. A couple could enter mediation before issuing divorce proceedings, after a summons has been issued, or after the matter has become defended.

The stage at which mediation begins will affect which documents already exist. The mediator therefore needs to understand the existing legal framework before assuming what needs to be mediated.

5. What Is a Settlement Agreement?

A Settlement Agreement records the agreement reached between the spouses concerning their divorce-related issues. Depending on the circumstances, it may cover:

  • Division of assets;
  • The family home;
  • Vehicles;
  • Bank accounts;
  • Investments;
  • Retirement interests;
  • Debts;
  • Maintenance;
  • Legal costs; and
  • Other financial or matrimonial issues.

The mediator helps the parties reach the agreement; the court ultimately determines whether and how the agreement is incorporated into a court order.

6. What Is a Parenting Plan?

When minor children are involved, the process becomes child-focused. A Parenting Plan records how the parents will exercise their parental responsibilities and rights.

  • Where the child will live;
  • Care arrangements;
  • Contact with each parent;
  • Holidays;
  • School arrangements;
  • Maintenance;
  • Decision-making;
  • Religious upbringing; and
  • Other matters concerning parental responsibilities and rights.

Section 33 of the Children’s Act provides for parents experiencing difficulties in exercising their parental responsibilities and rights to seek assistance in developing a parenting plan. Assistance may include the Family Advocate, a social worker or psychologist, or mediation by a suitably qualified person.

7. Does the Child Get a Say?

A Parenting Plan is not simply about what the two adults want. The child’s views and wishes must be considered in accordance with the child’s age, maturity and stage of development.

This does not mean that a child simply gets to choose which parent they want to live with. The child’s views are one part of a broader best-interests-of-the-child assessment.

8. What Happens to the Parenting Plan After Mediation?

The Children’s Act regulations provide prescribed documentation concerning parenting plans, including an application for registration of a Parenting Plan or for it to be made an order of court, together with supporting statements concerning assistance and mediation where applicable.

The basic pathway can therefore be understood as:

  1. Parents negotiate.
  2. A Parenting Plan is prepared.
  3. Required supporting documentation is completed.
  4. The plan is registered with the Family Advocate or taken to court to be made an order, as applicable.

9. What Does the Family Advocate Do?

The Family Advocate is particularly important where minor children are involved. The Office of the Family Advocate assists parents with disputes concerning parental responsibilities and rights, including care, contact and guardianship.

The Family Advocate can assist parents in reaching agreements and developing Parenting Plans. Where parents cannot agree, the Family Advocate may conduct an enquiry and provide a report and recommendations to the court concerning the child’s best interests.

10. What Is a Family Advocate Enquiry?

A Family Advocate enquiry is an investigation focused on the best interests of the child. The Family Advocate may interview the parents and, where appropriate, the child, to gather information and give the child an opportunity to be heard.

The enquiry is not about deciding which parent is the “better person”. It is about examining the circumstances surrounding the child and providing the court with relevant information and recommendations.

11. What Is a Section 23 Application?

Section 23 of the Children’s Act concerns applications relating to the assignment of care or contact. It can become relevant when someone is asking the court to formally assign or recognise care or contact.

A Parenting Plan generally asks: “How are these parents going to exercise their existing parental responsibilities and rights?” A Section 23 application is more concerned with whether the court should assign care or contact to a person.

12. What Is a Section 28 Application?

Section 28 is considerably more serious. It allows an eligible person to apply to the relevant court for orders concerning the suspension, termination, extension or restriction of parental responsibilities and rights.

This is not a routine divorce mediation form. A disagreement about holiday arrangements is very different from a situation where there are serious concerns about whether a parent’s contact with a child should continue at all.

A Section 28 issue may therefore require court intervention and careful consideration of whether ordinary parenting-plan mediation is appropriate.

13. What Is Discovery?

In a defended divorce, the parties may have to disclose relevant documents. This is known as discovery.

In financial disputes, discovery can be particularly important because meaningful settlement negotiations require sufficient information. Depending on the circumstances, this may include bank accounts, investments, property, vehicles, retirement interests, businesses, income and debts.

14. What Is a Notice of Set Down?

A Notice of Set Down is a procedural document used to place a matter on the court roll for hearing. It tells the court that the matter is ready to be heard on a particular date.

It is not a mediation agreement and is normally handled by the attorney or litigant.

15. What Is a Draft Order or Consent Order?

The Settlement Agreement records what the parties have agreed. The Draft Order sets out what the parties are asking the court to order.

The distinction is important: an agreement is the negotiated outcome between the parties, while the court order is the formal order made by the court.

16. What Is the Final Divorce Order?

At the end of the process, the court grants the divorce. The final order dissolves the marriage and records the orders made by the court. Depending on the matter, these may include arrangements concerning the matrimonial estate, maintenance and children.

17. What Happens If the Couple Reaches Agreement Through Mediation?

  1. Divorce proceedings begin, if they have not already begun.
  2. The parties enter mediation.
  3. The issues are identified, including financial and child-related issues.
  4. Relevant financial information is exchanged.
  5. Parenting arrangements are negotiated where there are children.
  6. The parties reach agreement on some or all issues.
  7. A Settlement Agreement and, where applicable, a Parenting Plan are prepared.
  8. The appropriate legal and court processes are followed.
  9. The court finalises the divorce and makes the relevant orders.

18. What If Mediation Only Resolves Some of the Issues?

Mediation does not have to result in a complete settlement to be useful. Parties may reach agreement on the house, vehicles, schooling and holiday contact, for example, while remaining unable to agree on maintenance. The unresolved issue can then proceed through the appropriate legal process.

19. What If There Is Already a Court Order?

This should be established early in mediation. If an existing order states that a parent has contact every second weekend, the parents should not simply act as though the order does not exist because they have entered mediation.

  • What the existing order says;
  • When it was made;
  • Whether it is interim or final;
  • Whether it has subsequently been varied;
  • Whether other orders deal with the children;
  • Whether applications are pending; and
  • Whether the proposed mediated agreement would conflict with the existing order.

The parties may need the appropriate legal process to vary an existing order.

20. The Most Important Distinction: Mediator Versus Attorney

A mediator can help people navigate the process, but the mediator should not become one party’s legal representative.

A mediator can:

  • Facilitate communication;
  • Identify issues;
  • Help parties understand each other’s concerns;
  • Encourage informed negotiation;
  • Help generate options;
  • Assist parties in reaching their own agreement; and
  • Document the outcome appropriately.

A mediator should not:

  • Decide which parent should win;
  • Tell one spouse what legal rights they should surrender;
  • Provide partisan legal advice;
  • Conceal information from the other party;
  • Make a court order;
  • Determine the child’s best interests as a judicial officer; or
  • Represent one party against the other.

Where parties need independent legal advice about their rights, they should be encouraged to obtain it.

The Divorce Mediation Process at a Glance

Divorce Summons → Particulars of Claim → Service on the other spouse → Notice of Intention to Defend / response → Plea / Counterclaim where applicable → Mediation → Financial and parenting negotiation → Settlement Agreement → Parenting Plan where applicable → Family Advocate process where applicable → Draft / Consent Order → Court hearing or finalisation → Divorce Order.

What Should You Bring to Divorce Mediation?

  • Marriage certificate;
  • Antenuptial contract, if applicable;
  • Existing divorce summons;
  • Particulars of Claim;
  • Notice of Intention to Defend;
  • Plea or Counterclaim;
  • Existing court orders;
  • Parenting Plans;
  • Family Advocate correspondence or reports;
  • Bank statements;
  • Property documentation;
  • Vehicle documentation;
  • Pension or retirement information;
  • Investment statements;
  • Business information;
  • Debt information;
  • Maintenance information; and
  • Other documents relevant to the issues being negotiated.

The Goal of Mediation Is Not Simply to Avoid Court

It is tempting to describe mediation as a way to avoid going to court. That is only part of the picture.

The more important purpose is to give separating spouses an opportunity to make informed decisions about their own future rather than having every unresolved issue decided by a court.

Where children are involved, this can be especially important. A court can make an order. A mediator helps parents work towards an arrangement that they can realistically continue to implement after the divorce.

The practical questions often matter just as much as the legal ones: How will school pickups work? What happens when a child has a sports tournament on the other parent’s weekend? How will birthdays and holidays be handled? How will parents communicate about medical decisions? What happens if one parent needs to travel for work?

Divorce does not have to mean two people fighting until a judge decides everything. The legal process can be complicated, and the paperwork can be intimidating, but mediation can create a different pathway in which both parties have an opportunity to be heard, understand the issues, negotiate solutions and work towards an agreement that is then taken through the appropriate legal process.

The forms are not the divorce. They are the paperwork that moves the legal process forward.

When children are involved, the central question should remain: “What arrangement gives this child the greatest opportunity to maintain healthy, meaningful and stable relationships with both parents?”

Let’s get you back on track!

Important Legal Note

This article provides general information about divorce mediation and court processes in South Africa. Court procedures, prescribed forms and legal requirements can change, and the correct process can depend on the circumstances of the individual matter. A mediator is not a substitute for independent legal advice. Parties should obtain legal advice where they need advice about their legal rights, the consequences of a proposed settlement, existing court orders or litigation strategy.

Sources and Further Information

  • Department of Justice — Divorce information and procedures: justice.gov.za
  • Office of the Family Advocate — Parenting plans, parental responsibilities and rights, mediation and enquiries: justice.gov.za/FMAdv
  • Children’s Act 38 of 2005 and associated regulations concerning parenting plans and parental responsibilities and rights.

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